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Remember the Id and the Ego from my post, “Inner Dialogue?”  Let’s bring them out again.  (Images by yurike – yurike_go@hotmail.com)

“Why am I doing this?”  I ask myself as I drive to class, “I could be home napping or reading a book.  Ya know, I’m feeling a bit off today – maybe I should turn around and go home.  Recovery days are important, right?  Especially at my age…”

“Ignore your age – you always forget your age once you’re immersed and engaged in Karate.  Besides, you had your recovery day – Sunday – two days ago.”

“Ugh, I’m not gonna make it through warmups.  I hope the rest of class is easy.  I’m not sweating yet and I feel lousy.”

“Are you kidding?  You’re not nearly as tired as you were after Gasshuku!  Stick it out – you’ll be doing something interesting pretty soon, then you’ll feel happy!”

“I’ve been practicing and tutoring kata for 90 minutes and Sensei wants me to spend the next half hour sparring someone who is younger and who outranks me?!?  I’m not gonna make it!”

In the case of that last thought, I had to give myself a severe scolding.  I was a guest at a sister dojo during the time they have a room reserved for practice.  The sensei didn’t have to teach me squat – he had things to work on himself.  So did the sempai.  The sensei was honoring me by having the sempai work with me on some very specific things that will boost my sparring skills.  You bet I found the energy to keep going and I thoroughly enjoyed the time.

There must be something deep within us that says that if the saber toothed tiger isn’t chasing us and we’re well fed, we really ought to hide and rest.  As enthusiastic as I am about Karate, I do have to fight sometimes to keep going.  I have to remind myself that I can do it.  I know I can keep going because I’ve done it so many times before.

The darkest motivation I can think of to persevere is simply that it’s entirely possible I’ll be attacked in the parking lot after class.  My life might one day depend on me overcoming fatigue, maybe even injury.  This thought first came to me on the drive home from my first Gasshuku.  I stopped at a rest stop and, as is my habit whenever I get out of a car, I surveyed the other people – noting where they were, where they were going, how they were dressed, and their emotional states.  No creeps.  I was barely able to drive safely home because I was very sore and tired, but I realized if it came to a fight for my life, no doubt I would find the energy.

In contrast, the best motivation for me to overcome fatigue is simply this:  Karate is fun, awesome, challenging, empowering, and a whole slew of other positive adjectives.  Yes, I know – proper hydration and nutrition count for a lot when it comes to preventing and overcoming fatigue.  I submit that one’s mental outlook is just as important if not more important.  The instant I lose sight of how lucky I am to be engaged in a physical activity that I enjoy, I start listening to that little voice that tells me I’m too tired.

I’m not tired.  Not really.

 

Karate programs can bring in a fair chunk of change to a community center, but from a manager’s standpoint, a good Karate program can be a bit “high maintenance.”  Karate doesn’t fit into a neat little box like Zumba or even swim lessons.  I suppose if one wanted a Karate program that caters specifically to the students who try it for a few months and then quit, one could smoosh Karate into a box.  After all, there’s a lot of money to be made from those students.  Such a class doesn’t need much accommodation – just a time slot and some floor space same as any other class.  In contrast, a strong rec-center Karate program (the kind that could possibly produce a world champion) needs a whole lot more from its host facility.  Because a good, solid Karate program is different from familiar programs such as Zumba and swim lessons, facility managers need to know how to support serious Karate students.  Serious students are in it for the long haul and they need a lot of support.

Karate doesn’t fit into the “get in, get out” mold very well like Zumba or swim lessons.  In Zumba, you can learn the moves pretty quickly – or not!  Anyone is perfectly welcome to just go through the motions without putting much effort into improving – and that’s all right in my book.  Most Karate instructors would like to see students apply themselves to increasing their skills and a few students are quite serious about doing so.  Swim lessons are a little bit closer to what we do in Karate.  There are different levels – guppy/white belt, minnow/orange belt – you get the picture.  There are incentives to progress – the more comfortable you are in the water the more fun you can have and your risk of drowning decreases.  Same with Karate – you have more fun as you increase your skill and your chances of surviving an attack increase. Here’s where the difference lies – six months of swim lessons and I became a “mermaid” for life.  A year and a quarter into my Karate studies I’m still taking baby steps in understanding, applying, and performing the most basic movements – and that is perfectly normal.  With our organization, it takes 8-10 years before a student might be invited to test for black belt.  Five to ten years is pretty standard across the board for most Karate organizations.  Karate is not an “everybody gets a trophy” deal – it is a challenging skill that takes boatloads of time to develop!

In a perfect world every Karate school would be open 24/7.  Obviously this is unrealistic for a rec center.  That said, every bit of extra time that a facility can give helps.  Across the board, ten to fifteen minutes to bring in and set up equipment before class is crucial.  Kids who arrive early sweep the floor, help with setup, and practice.  Most rec centers appreciate not having to deal with kids bouncing around the halls while waiting for class to begin!  Before-class time is also time for students to report any injuries or other medical considerations that the instructor needs to be aware of.  Of course after class equipment needs to be put away and students need to gather their belongings (which include fist pads and mouth guards used during sparring).  Even more extra time after class should be made for students to ask questions and receive feedback on their performance.  This is crucial to their progress.  Not everyone takes advantage of this time, so an extra fifteen to thirty minutes should suffice.  Even better – the facility and the instructor could agree to have two or more small classes so that everyone gets some attention.  Not everyone has a back yard, driveway, or garage to practice in, so it’s good to have three or more classes per week if possible.  Serious students practice daily, so it’s a nice gesture if a rec center will allow a student to use a studio after the last group exercise class of the day.

Once a facility has given the Karate program a time slot, this time needs to be respected.  I don’t know of a single rec center staff member who would make it a habit of barging into a yoga class during meditation to go in and out repeatedly in order to fetch exercise equipment stored in the room.  Karate meditation might look like it involves more wiggling than yoga (because of the kids), but there’s really no difference in how that time should be treated by outsiders.   Likewise, coming and going repeatedly while someone performs kata by himself in front of the class is a bit rude.  I admit it’s probably a good opportunity for that person to learn to maintain focus.  However, I can’t help but think that if someone were playing a clarinet solo in front of a music class no one would just barge right onto the stage – they’d wait out of respect for the performer.  I’d hate to think of what could happen if someone tried to go in and out repeatedly in during sparring.  At the very least it would be disruptive because the class would have to halt immediately.  At worst, someone could get hurt.  I’d think even Zumba participants might be annoyed at having to dance around staff members going in and out for whatever reason.  Good manners and respect are taught in Karate, so what does it say to the kids if the facility has no regard for the class?

Hand in hand with respect is trust.  Karate teaches self control, respect, and leadership.  That reduces the risks of injuries, thefts, and out-of-control children.  If the facility doesn’t have someone on staff whose job it is to set out the Karate equipment and monitor children who arrive early (where are the parents?), the facility needs to allow at least two or three adult or teen participants to access the storage areas and open the door to the room the class will use.  It is also important for a facility to acknowledge the built-in hierarchy that comes with any Karate program.  Just like in the military, every rank has authority and responsibility over the lower ranks.  If the instructor(s) are stuck in traffic, wrangling the kids is the job of the highest-ranked student even if that student is only twelve years old.  It is also that student’s job to start class and to lead warm-ups.  Even the lowest ranks are capable of calling out basic movements for the class to practice.  Developing leadership, especially among young people, is a wonderful process.  Slapping down restrictions on who can do what because of the fear of a lawsuit sends the wrong message to these young people.  Young people don’t always understand liability – all they see is the facility doesn’t trust them and disapproves of the Karate traditions they’ve been taught.  I realize there are numerous liability issues involved in all this, but what it boils down to is does the facility trust its Karate participants or does it not?

A facility hosting a Karate program needs to be aware of many things.  Karate doesn’t fit into the standard box of most activities.  Creating time and space for students to excel will result in long-term commitment, i.e. a steady, long-term source of income for the facility that will last longer than the latest fad (for example, “Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles,” or “Karate cures ADHD”).  Karate teaches respect and leadership, and a host facility would be wise to trust that.  Accordingly, existing policies might have to be revised to accommodate the Karate class.  The impact of new policies on a Karate program need to be taken into consideration before the policies are put into place.  The rewards for all this are many.  Children learn hard work and self discipline – such people are always a blessing for the community at large.  Students commit to years of practice and excellence.  And who knows?  If Karate becomes part of the Olympics, the next world champion could very well be in your rec center.  Are you going to stifle that child’s Karate program, or are you going to help her instructor nurture her talents?

We often hear about how lessons learned in the dojo can be applied to life in general.  Beginner that I am, even I preach that message.  But what about the opposite?  What can we bring into the dojo from life outside the dojo?  Plenty.  I’m going to focus on what I bring to the dojo from my other fitness classes and activities.

Every morning my cute little dog gets me up for a walk.  We usually get in a good hour of exercise.  This is my time for a kind of meditation.  I try to leave problems behind and appreciate my surroundings.  Sound familiar?  It’s a bit like meditating at the beginning of Karate class, where we leave problems behind and appreciate the fact we’re gonna learn some cool stuff.  Appreciation of my surroundings means I need to be aware of my surroundings.  This is easy because usually there are beautiful and interesting things to look at.  More importantly, awareness leads to being alert to potential danger.  This is key for self defense!  In the dark of winter mornings, I rely more heavily on my dog to alert me to the presence of other people or animals.   My dog is my exercise buddy, which means I have to be sensitive to what he’s doing, what he’s telling me, and what he needs or wants.  In the dojo, we need to be sensitive to our training partners too.

Before my M/W/F exercise classes, I do a bit of “rock” climbing on the YMCA’s climbing tower.  It’s a new skill, and the facilitator had me start by getting comfortable with descending using the belaying system.  The importance of perseverance is being reinforced as I strive to conquer each route.  Every karate student who has earned at least one belt knows the value of perseverance, the more so for each rank earned.  As soon as I reached the top of the easiest route, it was time to set a new goal and build on what I’d already learned.  Just so with Karate – each rank comes with more things to learn, and what one has learned before applies to what one will learn next.  With climbing, as in Karate, the whole body has to work together, and there’s a good bit of balance and coordination involved.  My biggest challenge has been learning to take what I call “leaps of faith.”  Those are the places on the wall where one can’t rest, where one has to quickly push and stretch and pull and use the momentum of one’s body to get from point A to point B.   One has to make split second decisions, keep moving, and to think ahead – just like in sparring.

M/W/F evenings I do group exercise classes – basically these are conditioning classes.  There are three different instructors and each has a different approach.  The movements are easy to learn and most everything is self-paced.  The instructors try to make it fun with upbeat attitude and snazzy music, but let’s face it – this isn’t as fun as Karate.  It’s a good exercise in toughing out things that aren’t really all that fun but are good for us.  That said, I’ve learned to appreciate these classes.  It’s a luxury to be allowed to have a water bottle and take frequent 30-60 second breaks.  It’s perfectly acceptable (and even encouraged) for me to be goofy and play air guitar and lip-sync along with the music while we do wall squats.  There are some exercises I’m tougher than anyone at, but… there are some that I’m still sweating over.  Everyone has something to work on, and that’s probably one of the most important lessons I can learn from these classes.  I’m also learning good exercises for warming up my fellow karateka if I happen to be the ranking student and Sensei’s stuck in traffic!

Until recently, when I dropped it in favor of more Karate practice, I was going to a Zumba class on Saturday mornings.  Prior to that I went to a similar class that featured Bollywood music and incorporated some Indian dance moves.  In these classes, I dealt with learning  fast-paced movements without anyone slowing down and showing me what to do.  This is exceedingly challenging for someone who is directionally dyslexic.  I challenged myself to not get upset and to keep trying.  It took me three months to get comfortable with Bollywood Fitness and perhaps another month before I looked pretty good doing it.  With Zumba, I had to start all over again – that’s OK, it’s good to review how to be patient with one’s own learning challenge!  There are times in Karate seminars when things are a bit over my head and nobody can slow down for me.  I always try hard anyway, and usually what ends up happening is I learn something.  If I don’t learn, let’s say, the kata itself my takeaway from the seminar might be that the method used to teach that kata was very cool and resulted in me actually remembering some of the kata the next morning!

Whenever I can schedule it, I take one of my children swimming.  I hang out while my child plays.  I keep my water fitness skills fresh in case I’m called to substitute teach again, but I don’t do the full workout – I do just a few reps of each movement.  I stretch, maybe do some underwater swimming, and I get in tune with what’s going on with my body.  I try relaxing muscles – my shoulders are a particular problem.  I massage, stretch, or gently work sore spots.  Hopefully this is building awareness of my body.  One useful thing I have learned from the pool is that if I’m immersed up to my neck and in fighting stance, my heels come up naturally.  I think it means if I reduce my weight and strengthen my legs, fighting stance should get easier.

Maybe I’m a bit obsessed if I’m finding things to apply to my Karate in everything I do.  On the other hand, one of our guest instructors at Gasshuku did say that any physical activity will help Karate.  Aside from which, I simply enjoy the variety.  I do still practice Karate every day – anywhere from 30 minutes to 2 hours depending on the day of the week.  I probably could replace everything else with more Karate practice if I knew how to get electricity out to my garage and rat-proof the garage door.  But somehow I just can’t see myself doing nothing but Karate.

Now let’s see if I can put my money where my mouth is at the end of this month when I take up (of all things) square dancing.  My husband is keen on it.  He is an excellent lead and one thing I regret is that we didn’t dance much after we took a ballroom and country western dance class together in college one semester.  But square dancing is a whole ‘nuther ball of wax and, well, to tell the truth, I’m trying not to be a spoil sport.  It won’t encroach on Karate time or anything else I do.  But still…  Square dancing?  Groan…  I’m trying not to think of it as a fate worse than death.  There’s got to be a Karate lesson in it somewhere for me.

Grab yer pardner
Smash his face
Bring yer leg ’round
Turn in place
Side kick left and
Side kick right
Do-si-do
Hammer fist
To yer right!

 

CLONK!

“I am SO sorry!  Oh my gosh, are you all right?”

“Think so…”

“Hey, look at me – OK, your pupils are good.  I’ll get you an ice pack.”

Us martial artists have very interesting relationships with one another.  What other group of people will beat up their friends?  I remember once when helping to plan the Christmas party my attention wandered and I looked at each person in turn, thinking, “He’s thrashed me soundly, he’s beaten me up, so has he…”  I guess that’s what I get for visiting sister dojos so much.  And here we were working ever so nicely together to plan a wonderful social event.  We were talking about table decorations and stringing pretty colored lights!  I found this contrast to normal Karate conversation was hilarious, and fought down the giggles.

Sometimes these unusual relationships can bring to light some things we’d rather not see about ourselves, and we find out we can overcome those things.   I’ve recently written about a time when I sparred with someone who outranks me and discovered I had a “trigger” for anger.    Since then I’ve chatted a bit with him, I’ve watched him spar other karateka, and, most importantly, I sparred with him again and had fun.  I’m very pleased to be acquainted with him.

Sometimes a sparring match is a great icebreaker for us martial artists.  Once while visiting a sister dojo I chose to spar against a young man who didn’t even have a gi.  I knew he’d been training for a few weeks, so I started gently and ramped things up from there.  I couldn’t figure him out – one moment he’d be confident and giving me a run for my money, next moment he’d be uncertain and crumbling.  It didn’t take long for me to discover he liked throwing and dealing with kicks and didn’t do well with multiple punches.  I decided he needed more practice with punches.  I launched one of my favorite punch combinations and… he scooted backward and scored a kick that knocked the wind out of me.  So after class as I was walking up to him, I realized dude’s wearing a Tae Kwon Do T-shirt.  Oh…  That explained a lot!  We had a wonderful time chatting, we were joined by a saber fighter, and the three of us had a great geek fest.  I don’t know if we’d have spoken to each other had he not nailed me!  Which leads to what I’ve heard from numerous karateka of all ranks…

I have a sneaking suspicion that over half of all karateka feel like they’re awkward socially.  This based on numerous confessions from all ranks.  And yeah, me too.  Karate gives us a clear, easy to understand social system to hang out with for awhile. We don’t have to engage in mindless, awkward chitchat – in fact, most of the time chatter will earn us pushups.  There are times when we don’t have to interact with anyone at all – we can just be breath, muscle, spirit, movement…  As an introvert, I find all this to be refreshing.

Be that as it may, we don’t have to stay inside our little shells.  We do have something in common.  One can build from there when we throw ourselves together for social functions.  I’ve found questions like, “What do you know now that you wish you’d known when you were a beginner?” or “How did you get started with Karate?” are great ice breakers when I find myself sitting next to a black belt at a gathering.  Before I know it, the intimidation factor of sitting next to a (gasp) Sensei is gone.  Mind you I’m still respectful because I know I could get assigned pushups 😉

We see each other at our best and at our worst.  At the Christmas party I get to see my fellow karateka freshly showered and in nice clothes.  The complete opposite is how we all look at the end of Gasshuku, when we’re all stinky and gummy with a weekend’s worth of sweat, dust, and sunscreen and our gis are stained with grass, earth, and maybe a little blood.  We’ve seen great tournament performances and utter confusion over a drill.  We’ve seen laughter and we’ve seen tears of frustration and/or pain.  In short, we see that we’re human beings.

There’s another aspect to learning from falling that didn’t occur to me until a week or so after I’d written Lessons from Falling.  Recently I spent some time being thrown to the mats during Gasshuku, and after some reflection and a couple of ibuprofen, I came up with another lesson learned from falling.  Namely, other people can benefit from our experiences with falling.

I’ve had a few lessons in grappling and, in recent months, senior students have been dumping me to the floor by catching my kicks if I’m too slow with them during sparring.  I’ve had a good many opportunities to practice falling.  From one perspective, this is a bad thing – we’re supposed to stay on our feet during sparring, and I most definitely have my work cut out for me in order to avoid going splat.  But on the other hand, all that time I’ve spent between sky and Earth directly benefited two other karateka.

One was a beginner who’d had very little experience with grappling.  After receiving my partner’s assent that she knew how to fall, I did the exercise a couple of times then turned it over to her.  I knew she needed more help than I did, and there were plenty of black belts circulating.  I “dig in” when I’m the uke, resisting until I feel my center of gravity shift – i.e. when my partner has proper leverage.  Sure enough, my partner’s unsuccessful attempts attracted a Sensei’s attention and she got the help she needed.  In the limited time we had to do the exercise, she learned the technique thoroughly.  It meant I took way more than my fair share of falls, but I didn’t mind at all.  It was worth it to see that young lady grow!

How often in life have I taken more than my “fair” share of falls for the benefit of others and maybe even at my own expense?  More times than I can count because I am a mother.   A toddler can’t possibly comprehend the issues involved in breaking an expensive vase, but a mother can take that fall by paying for the vase and apologizing.  I’ve taken painful physical falls so that my children wouldn’t be injured.  You don’t have to be a parent to take a fall for the benefit of others.  If you’ve ever stuck out your neck for your co-workers, friends, or family members you know what this is all about.

The second karateka who benefited from all the times I’ve been dumped on the floor was afraid of hurting people.  I looked her in the eye and said seriously, “I bounce.  You won’t hurt me.”  I assured her I’m quite comfortable with being thrown and falling.  Timorously, she tried the maneuver.  I dug in and…  She couldn’t throw me.  Sure enough, this situation was a “Sensei magnet,” especially as my partner outranked me.

My partner expressed concern about hurting me.  I protested, “You won’t!”  Next thing I knew, the black belt was demonstrating the maneuver on me.  I was on the mats in the twinkling of an eye.  The throw must have looked more brutal than it felt because my partner was a bit wide-eyed after I scrambled back up to my feet.  The black belt asked (for my partner’s benefit) if I was hurt and I asserted that I was just fine.  The black belt walked my partner through the maneuver.

I dug in, my partner got the proper leverage, and I went down.  I got back up and reset my stance.  My partner subsequently came at me with confidence each time and threw me again and again.   Maybe some day she’ll remember this lesson and not hesitate to demonstrate take-downs to a dojo full of her own students.

Let’s say your friend asks you for advice about something that is not easily dealt with – something that might end up with a third party getting hurt feelings.  Let’s say you empathize with the third party because you’ve “been there” – you’ve been on the receiving end of the pink slip, the “let’s be friends” speech, or whatever your friend needs to say to that third party.  You’re in a position to teach your friend that yes, people survive these “falls,” and to give her the confidence and tools to say what needs to be said.

No one likes falling.  I admit I’d far rather throw someone to the mats than to be thrown.  On the other hand, there’s a lot to be said for what one learns from falling.  As I’ve written in a prior blog post, I learn not to undermine myself and to avoid reactions that make the fall worse.  I learn the importance of being a good example.  Most importantly, I can take what I have learned about falling and help other people.  I hope I’ve helped you, dear reader.