Mirror, Mirror

I finally had the opportunity to spar with a new adult lady student.  I was looking forward to it because I knew she’d had previous Karate experience.  Her brother has been coming to class for a few months and his previous level of experience shows.  She herself has only been with us for a short time, and I didn’t know her well.  I assumed she had the same abilities as her brother.


I knew instantly I was mistaken.  Looking at her was like looking into a magic mirror that showed how I once was.  Instantly I knew what she was feeling.  It was written all over her face and body.  Her fighting style is different than mine used to be, but oh did I ever relate to what I saw in her as the emotions played across her face and body during the bout.  She acquitted herself very well.

My new friend is definitely “in process.”  Don’t get me wrong – I liked what I saw in her, and really, it was beautiful.  I’m still in process too, as evidenced by Sensei’s request for me to ramp down my intensity even further while working with my new friend.

black eye 2015 Joelle White
Bruises are fun!!!

Later the same class I gleefully bounced over to a new sparring partner, a lady who significantly outranks me.  I love sparring with karateka who are way better at sparring than I am because it pushes me to the top of my game.  Never mind I get my butt kicked, I value the lessons more than my pride.


What did this sparring partner see in me?  Did she see anything of herself reflected back?  I’m betting she knew how hard to push me based on what she saw.  Even still, she once threw something just a shade too hard and apologized (no harm done).  I’m thinking she’s still “in process” too.  Did I get a good look into a magic mirror that showed me something of my future?  I hope so because I liked what I saw.

Author: Joelle White

I began training in Karate in June of 2014 after a 27 year hiatus.

4 thoughts on “Mirror, Mirror”

  1. Amen. And are not we all always works in progress? Your blog and mine are named with that in mind. It is good to spar with both extremes. Newbies force you to see where you have been and appreciate how far you have come and also have that raw and unrestrained and unpredictable element that you need to be aware of.There is also the opportunity to teach. Higher ranks as you say push you and show up your weak spots but also show you where you are going and where you need to set your compass. You can still practice control obviously and try out strategies but at the same time you can afford to go harder to a point. Osu.

  2. Ossu, Rach! LOL, I did paraphrase your blog’s title 🙂 You’re so right about sparring against people of all different abilities. And it’s fun, too! Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

  3. Love this one Joelle! Not a real mirror but a magic mirror, which shows you your own past or future or maybe even something else altogether at times. Just shows how we are all connected 🙂

    1. Kai, you summed up beautifully what I tried hard to say 🙂 Yes, I guess we are all connected – thanks for pointing that out! Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

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